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It is a common mistake among couples that they only go to a relationship coach or counselor when things get bad. This is like suggesting that the All Blacks shouldn’t have a coach unless they start losing games. The time when you should ask for advice about your relationship is before you have started it.

A relationship is something to take care with, protect and nurture. Whether you have been together 5 months or 50 years care should still be taken. Indeed, the longer one has been in the relationship the more complacent one might become and hence nearly imperceptibly drift apart.

How we loose touch with each other in the ‘busyness’ of life! In my practice I see couple after couple who got so busy with everyday life; the demands of kids, work, house etc that they have lost touch with themselves, each other and the relationship. This often happens without anyone realising and leads to him or her simply one day discovering a lack of connection with his or her partner, and often a notion that the relationship ‘is over’ takes shape.

Do you know of people despairing on the brink of a relationship break-up? Now there is hope of reconciliation and renewal of that old love.

A separation is always painful for all involved. How can you get over someone and get on with life? Peter gives a few tips.

How is it that every day, people trust complete strangers in fast cars to abide by the road rules and stay on their side of the road? Yet, when it comes to listening to what their partner says and playing by the rules of good relationships, the same people throw trust out the window and 'mind read' bad intentions.