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One of the biggest questions which comes out of the NLP models is “What do you want?” If you come to see me for any anything, then that will be the first question I ask you. It is something you could begin asking yourself more often. What do I want? Often this is interpreted as “what don’t I want” and can be distracting and a wee bit limiting, but getting clear on what you actually want is a valuable place to begin.

Learn the new approach taken by the Brooklyn Program in New York which had revolutionized how people can overcome addiction without giving it up - they leave it behind.

Every now and then it is helpful to go back to basics.It is so easy to get caught up in the cycle of rush rush rush with no time for yourself, no time to plan, no time to relax, no time for anything except the hurly burly rush that is life in our busy world. Meeting everyone else's needs at the expense of your own, is often part of the psyche for women in our society.

The first step to getting what you want out of your life is to create the space for it! Here are a few tips to help you do just that by slaying the energy drainers in your life once and for all!

By examining your beliefs about certain aspects of your life you can expose ones which hold you back and stop you from pushing yourself ahead and reaching your goals and aspirations.

When it comes to weight loss it can often be a real battle between what you know is good for you and what you love. A battle of the mind. Have you experienced that dual conversation going on inside your head where one part of you is saying, ‘No, I don’t need that, if I eat that I will not reach my goal weight and it will not be doing my body any good’ and the other part is saying ‘Go on, you deserve it.

Why does talking about something sometimese make you feel better about it and sometimes worse? Peter Campbell explores the neurolinguistic roots of successful counselling.

By now my partner is tired of hearing me repeat the same mantra over and over when I listen to him coming from a place of negativity however, it has given him food for thought and it has been proven time and time again to be true. The mantra I am talking about is 'What you focus on is what you'll get.'

A few weeks ago I went to the hairdresser.I was pretty unsure of what I wanted, (not such a good thing when you are in someone else’s hands!) After a bit of a chat, my hairdresser suggested a different style, I readily agreed, after all, I’m ok with change… or so I thought!

Sometimes it can be hard to maintain your enthusiasm and keep your eye on the goal, here are some great tips to give you instant motivation so you will be highly energised and more focused on your way to achieving your goal.

Doing is believing when it comes to recovering from traumatic experiences.

Anxiety and panic disorders are quite debilitating and when taken to extremes may prevent you from going out, or doing things you want to do. Even simple, enjoyable pleasures such as shopping, or catching up with friends for a coffee may become too hard to even contemplate.

Until 2 years ago my biggest adventure had always been the travelling we (my hubby and I) had done on our big OE 27 years ago. I’m sure you know how it is; you finish your training, or study, save like crazy and sell everything off and away you go. Off to see the world. Generations of kiwis have done it, and plenty more will continue to do so, almost as a rite of passage.

I hear this over and over - “One Day, when everything is sorted…. then I will ......(live the life I really want to live…”) In my work, I meet a lot of men who are holding off from living the life they want now, and seem to think that there will be an ideal time, in the future … when things will be different in some way. I hear them say… When: • my finances are more secure.. • the children grown up and leave home • the house is paid off.. • I have a better paid job.. • I have time…

Have you noticed that when you go away, you take yourself with you? There's an emotional side to absolutely everything we do. A huge part of the reason that we do this, is that our behaviour is a vehicle to meet our needs. Our behaviour naturally attempts to find happiness and fulfillment, and is driven by 6 core needs.

Our thoughts decide our destiny. What we think day to day will determine how we live our lives. We can choose thoughts that keep us stuck such as ‘I am not good enough’ or ‘I can’t do that’ or we can choose thoughts that will empower us and allow us to get the most out of life such as ‘I love a challenge’ or ‘I am successful.’

Over the past few years I have become more and more fascinated with the power of the human mind and what can be achieved by unlocking the door to our sub conscious. This has lead me to Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), life coaching, healing with crystals, various forms of meditation and lately hypnosis.

With the end of the year coming up extraordinarily fast, I am reminded again of the huge stress that this time of the year often brings to families who live day to day with a child or young adult with autism. Instead of a relaxing refreshing holiday, families are often faced with increased anxiety,tantrums, tears, and incredible amount of stress as they try to navigate the long holiday season. I wanted to share a few tips I have learnt as the parent of a young adult daughter with autism.

What's so good about developing an attitude of gratitude? Check out the bottom of this article for the answer.....

Living your life around your highest values can allow you to be fulfilled and focused, giving you the tools to choose easily what is important to you, based on those guiding values.

As a Life Management coach and therapist, meditation is always something that I recommend to my client’s as it is a wonderful way to unwind from a busy day, recharge in the middle of the day or set yourself up for the busy day ahead. If you are battling low self esteem or you lack the confidence to go after your dreams then this practice will help to give you clarity and direction.

I love personal development books, you could say I have 'wee' bit of an obsession with them - judging by my bulging bookshelf! Some of the criteria I use choosing these books are, they must be practical, easily implemented and have plenty of good examples to illustrate the concepts.

What's the best book you've ever read? Hmmm .... ask me an easy one why don't you! That's up there with 'what's the meaning of life'. There are so many to choose from .... Barefoot Doctor's Urban Warrior .... Quiet Leadership by David Rock .... Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching ... Mind Power by John Kehoe ...

Are you a great sleeper - able to put your head down, and doze off easily? It is said to be the gift of the angels! Yet you may have times in your life when sleep doesn’t come so easily. You may have a one of these types of sleeping issues : • Dropping off to sleep ok, but waking with thoughts going around in their head and then you can’t get back to sleep. • Not being able to drop off well at all - and when you do it is on and off with wakeful times.

This book contains information and applications for almost every area of your life and could have a major impact on the relationships you have with your partner, children and animals - if you let it.

I felt compelled to share with you some facts about stress because it is something that affects us all at some time or other and it can be mild or debilitating. Stress has been the main point of discussion at home this week because of everything that is going on.

You know what it's like when you meet someone who you 'click' with? You feel at ease, relaxed and almost immediately you relate to them? You understand 'where they are coming from', and you are 'on the same page'. Sometimes this feeling is spontaneous,it seems to just happen.I bet you also can think of times when you have had the opposite feeling? There may be people in your life that you really cannot seem to relate to in any way, shape or form. This feeling or lack of it,is called rapport.

It is a brand new year, and traditionally this is a fabulous time to create some inspiring goals! You feel inspired and motivated and then, something happens and after a few short weeks you let it all go. You just can't seem to maintain the momentum! It is very common. How do you keep inspired and motivated? It is very easy if you follow some simple rules. You need to create 'Stickability' to your goals so you will be more likely to achieve them.

Every day I hear or read about people saying things such as “I want to lose weight” or “I am going to lose 6 kilos in 6 weeks” or “Today is the last day of my unhealthy habits, tomorrow I will start fresh.”

It is a common mistake among couples that they only go to a relationship coach or counselor when things get bad. This is like suggesting that the All Blacks shouldn’t have a coach unless they start losing games. The time when you should ask for advice about your relationship is before you have started it.

Last night I sat with my 16 year old daughter and watched Jamie Oliver battling to get permission to teach nutrition and cook healthy meals for a school in the US. Time and again he got thwarted and the school principal had to go and dig for some loophole that would get him back into the school again. I got quite emotional when he interviewed some of the children as they lived in fear of losing their parents and loved ones early, not to mention the toll an unhealthy diet was having on

Pick up any book on personal growth, self improvement or successful thinking and you will find one of the first concepts is usually to ask clearly for what you want. That is assuming you know what you want in the first place!

We all face challenges in our lives which, when we look back, we realise with the benefit of hindsight, that they were defining moments. Moments which shape us into who we become, and where we learn important lessons about ourselves and how we respond to circumstances.

At some stage most of us go through a time when we have to be strong and brave. In Christchurch at the moment people are asking “how long will this continue?” For some of us this question really is “how long do we need to be brave?” Sleepless nights, fear and anxiety have their impact on all areas of your life, affecting your personal health and relationships. Here’s how to build resilience and courage.

A few years ago I went through a period of rapid growth which stemmed from my intention to be true to myself and follow my heart. Up until then I had resisted because I wasn’t ready to spread my wings and fly out of my comfort zone and, I had all kinds of excuses for staying where I was.