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Do you wonder why, just when things seem to be going so well between you and your partner, things can suddenly go so wrong?

Do you know of people despairing on the brink of a relationship break-up? Now there is hope of reconciliation and renewal of that old love.

Have you got a child you don’t get on with? Maybe they remind you too much of yourself, or someone you don’t particularly like? Maybe they appear different from you in behaviour and style, and you can’t connect with them? A few years ago, someone I was seeking some advice from someone told me that my son was more like me than I knew - and that I should make an effort to get to know him better. This was quite a shock to me!

Remember the good old days when your man paid loving attention to your every need? What happened? Where did the love go? Want to re-connect and feel the magic again?

Trying to save money while planning your wedding is a bit like walking a tightrope – you don’t want to waste money, but you do want to create an unforgettably beautiful event. So, one great way to save money is to avoid the things that aren’t worth buying at any price. For every wedding, the priorities are different, of course, but here is my personal top 5 of possible expenses that should make you put your credit card back into your wallet:

What is the beach ball aspect? When we encounter various aspects of life, it’s often akin to looking at a beach ball. People look at the same thing, yet see something different because they view it from a different angle. When a person looks at a beach ball they may see a red, yellow and blue stripe. Another person may look at it and see a green, orange and white stripe. Neither is ‘wrong’ they are just seeing it from their own perspective.

So what is the miracle mindset all about anyway?

A separation is always painful for all involved. How can you get over someone and get on with life? Peter gives a few tips.

This is about my journey of preparation on my way to meeting my husband.

This is about my journey of preparation on my way to meeting my husband.

How we loose touch with each other in the ‘busyness’ of life! In my practice I see couple after couple who got so busy with everyday life; the demands of kids, work, house etc that they have lost touch with themselves, each other and the relationship. This often happens without anyone realising and leads to him or her simply one day discovering a lack of connection with his or her partner, and often a notion that the relationship ‘is over’ takes shape.

So how can your attitude shift the relationship between two people? I was reading a newsletter by Mark Peysha, the CEO of Robbins-Madanes Training and he was reflecting on Dr Martin Luther King. His thoughts really resonated with me as I had been having a discussion this week on this topic but couldn't articulate what I was trying to say. Quoting Mark: You and I are equal. You and I are different. You and I are the same. Read on to understand what Mark means by this paradox....

Ever felt that something that you’ve experienced or that was done to you is holding you back? Forgiveness is giving up a grievance, which you are entitled to. It doesn’t mean forgetting or reconciliation; it doesn’t mean condoning, it’s not about justice and doesn’t make what happened ok.

Has the love or romance waned in your relationship? Are you feeling a bit bored or in a rut? Can you remember when the person you chose to share the rest of your life with was the most important person in your life? Well take stock and take action as it’s highly likely you want to create a legacy of a united and loving family.

How is it that every day, people trust complete strangers in fast cars to abide by the road rules and stay on their side of the road? Yet, when it comes to listening to what their partner says and playing by the rules of good relationships, the same people throw trust out the window and 'mind read' bad intentions.

Can a Book Change Your Life – Only If You Let It! A review of Stephen MR Covey’s “The Speed of Trust”.

It is a common mistake among couples that they only go to a relationship coach or counselor when things get bad. This is like suggesting that the All Blacks shouldn’t have a coach unless they start losing games. The time when you should ask for advice about your relationship is before you have started it.

Myth 3: How I think about my audience doesn't matter. Truth: How you view your listeners is more important than the words you say.

Have you ever noticed that no matter how hard you try to be 'positive', past beliefs come back to haunt you?

A relationship is something to take care with, protect and nurture. Whether you have been together 5 months or 50 years care should still be taken. Indeed, the longer one has been in the relationship the more complacent one might become and hence nearly imperceptibly drift apart.