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You might have already met the Night Terrorist. He might turn up after you’ve had a particularly busy day. You’re tired. Your muscles ache and your head is spinning. As the evening progresses you think longingly of your bed.

Have you ever tried being unpredictable? It is a very cool and useful tool I use with my children. Having lots of choices about the way I behave and react to situations allows for lots of fun and surprises when the children ask me for something. This means they can never tell exactly how I am going to react.. and they can’t manipulate the situation with sulking, greasing, and demanding. They can try though.

Strengthen your influence factor by using these tips to have more leverage with your colleagues, boss, children, friends or anyone else. These tips are easy to use and you may find them more than a little surprsing.

In an experiment in the USA, a teacher was given a group of under-performing students to teach for a year. Although the students were considered ‘slow’ the researchers told the teacher that the children were the crème de la crème; naturally gifted and expected to excel. The teacher accepted what she was told and expected top performances from every child. Her brain had being ‘programmed’ by what she’d been told and thus what she would experience.

When you hear that word 'but' don't you just grind your teeth? You know that whatever nice thing was said in the first part of the sentence is about to be negated. You steel yourself as you prepare to receive... the real truth.

When you speak the same language as someone else it's easy to believe that all parties have the same understanding of each word. If this were really the case we would rarely misunderstand each other.

One of the biggest questions which comes out of the NLP models is “What do you want?” If you come to see me for any anything, then that will be the first question I ask you. It is something you could begin asking yourself more often. What do I want? Often this is interpreted as “what don’t I want” and can be distracting and a wee bit limiting, but getting clear on what you actually want is a valuable place to begin.

The short and simple answer? NLP is the study of Human Excellence.

Although 3 weeks of lying on the beach of a tropical island might seem like a great way to de-stressify yourself, sometimes that just not possible! So here are some quick, practical and easy ways to de-stressify, chill out and generally get back to feeling in control. AND, you can use them all year round.

This book contains information and applications for almost every area of your life and could have a major impact on the relationships you have with your partner, children and animals - if you let it.

There are times when we need to push past our natural inclination and ‘not be ourselves’ to get the result we need. In a performance review you may need to tell someone they are not measuring up. Do you tiptoe around the point, or are you able to talk about the things you need to, in a way that confronts the problem and sets a plan in motion to overcome it? Some confrontation avoiders see every hard conversation as a potential confrontation and often will do nothing and hope it goes away.

Clients often seek personal help when dealing with behaviour problems in their children. A very healthy and simple way of changing a child’s behaviour is to undertake a 5 night “Sleep Talk” process - where you read your child a customised script each night when they have gone to sleep. Your familiar voice, your loving tone, and the personalness of the message “gets in!” and the child is given a message of love, support, and positive outcome which they unconsciously acknowledge and implement.

How is it that every day, people trust complete strangers in fast cars to abide by the road rules and stay on their side of the road? Yet, when it comes to listening to what their partner says and playing by the rules of good relationships, the same people throw trust out the window and 'mind read' bad intentions.

NLP can, and is, being used in just about every facet of human endeavour. Since it was developed in the mid 1970's the use of NLP has expanded exponentially. The reason for such huge growth? It works! While many people who haven't been exposed to NLP often think it's a type of therapy, nothing could be further from the truth. Here are just SOME of the ways NLP is currently being used.