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Do you know of people despairing on the brink of a relationship break-up? Now there is hope of reconciliation and renewal of that old love.

When my friend Sara came back from living in Australia for a year, she was over the moon with the great times she had accumulated there. She had done so many new things and many great friends travelling around. But there was one thing which she wished she could feel differently about: her crippling fear of spiders which she had for quite some years and which was disabilitating.

Learn the new approach taken by the Brooklyn Program in New York which had revolutionized how people can overcome addiction without giving it up - they leave it behind.

The other day, I received an email from one of my clients who said she realised that she was not talking to her inner child because she was feeling resistance and felt uncomfortable while talking to her inner child. So, she stopped. And that meant, she didn't get to feel good. It was as though a light bulb went off in her mind, as she realised that she was listening to her feelings instead of being a strong and conscious person who could take charge of her thoughts.

You might have already met the Night Terrorist. He might turn up after you’ve had a particularly busy day. You’re tired. Your muscles ache and your head is spinning. As the evening progresses you think longingly of your bed.

When you hear that word 'but' don't you just grind your teeth? You know that whatever nice thing was said in the first part of the sentence is about to be negated. You steel yourself as you prepare to receive... the real truth.

I have played a lot of sport in my time and have watched or even participated in games where the worse player has somehow managed to win. This was particularly galling when I was the player being defeated and I could do seemingly nothing as my opponent, lacking technique and finesse, doggedly took my game to pieces and came out the bloody victor at the end. Most sportspeople know this experience. So how does it happen?

Imagine how your life would change if you were self assured, confident and at ease in all situations, however challenging! Being confident and outgoing is a skill you can learn, and there is no better time than now to get started!

My clients seem to share one thing in common which, I guess, is why they seek me out. They all want something more out of life and, in fact, they want it badly enough however, there is something getting in the way of them achieving their desired goal.

My clients seem to share one thing in common which, I guess, is why they seek me out. They all want something more out of life and, in fact, they want it badly enough however, there is something getting in the way of them achieving their desired goal.

What a week it has been in the history of aviation! A volcano erupting in Iceland has caused so much disruption leaving people stuck in different countries all over the world. I was in the Philippines at the time, and was not much disturbed by it coming back to New Zealand, but relatives and many others did find themselves stranded for days. While some people were happy about a few more days aboard, covered by insurance, others wanted to be home and wished they had not gone away.

Why does talking about something sometimese make you feel better about it and sometimes worse? Peter Campbell explores the neurolinguistic roots of successful counselling.

A separation is always painful for all involved. How can you get over someone and get on with life? Peter gives a few tips.

As a linguist I have always been interested in improving my linguistic ability. Learn about a new approach to Linguistic Excellence using NLP to develop latent skills you may have only ever dreamed about.

Doing is believing when it comes to recovering from traumatic experiences.

What does success mean to you? Is it being the best at what you do in your career, in your life? Maybe it is having a fabulous house or that amazing car? Being wealthy or maybe being happy?

In an experiment in the USA, a teacher was given a group of under-performing students to teach for a year. Although the students were considered ‘slow’ the researchers told the teacher that the children were the crème de la crème; naturally gifted and expected to excel. The teacher accepted what she was told and expected top performances from every child. Her brain had being ‘programmed’ by what she’d been told and thus what she would experience.

Strengthen your influence factor by using these tips to have more leverage with your colleagues, boss, children, friends or anyone else. These tips are easy to use and you may find them more than a little surprsing.

What can you do when a debilitating sickness is holding you back from what you want in life? Peter Campbell relates one approach he used on a client whose potential was being limited.

When you speak the same language as someone else it's easy to believe that all parties have the same understanding of each word. If this were really the case we would rarely misunderstand each other.

How can clinical problems such as depression be overcome without resorting to drugs. Peter explores the problem from an NLP perspective.

He was literally doubled up. First he coughed, then he spluttered then he erupted into a staccato laugh that sounded like a machine gun firing. At one point he was gasping for breath and could hardly breathe.I love it when I get this kind of response to a joke!

The short and simple answer? NLP is the study of Human Excellence.

Over the past five months we have been under considerable stress in Christchurch as a result of the constant aftershocks. The latest quake on February 22 seems to be the final straw for many. Much of the central city is destroyed and there has been an exodus from Christchurch. Those that remain are burdened with the clean up and the costs: financial, material and emotional.

Are you a great sleeper - able to put your head down, and doze off easily? It is said to be the gift of the angels! Yet you may have times in your life when sleep doesn’t come so easily. You may have a one of these types of sleeping issues : • Dropping off to sleep ok, but waking with thoughts going around in their head and then you can’t get back to sleep. • Not being able to drop off well at all - and when you do it is on and off with wakeful times.

Thought of stopping smoking? Thinking you can do it and have not come around to doing it? Have you maybe tried and then started again? Well, you are not the only one...

Most of us have goals, and by and large, we are probably pretty good at achieving most of them. Most of us have dreams, and by and large we only dream about them. Only a few turn their dreams into reality. Simple as it may seem the techniques which you use probably automatically and subconsciously for achieving the small things are the key behind getting those dreams.

If you’re a human and if you have recently been affected from close by or from afar by natural disasters, as recently people in Canterbury and Japan have been, there is a high chance that you’ve been ‘stressed’ by these events. Most likely since you’re reading this, you are an adult and have unfortunately unlearned how to deal with such levels of stress appropriately. By now this may be making you display some form

How is it that every day, people trust complete strangers in fast cars to abide by the road rules and stay on their side of the road? Yet, when it comes to listening to what their partner says and playing by the rules of good relationships, the same people throw trust out the window and 'mind read' bad intentions.

Your life is in your hands and hypnosis is a safe and natural method for creating change in your life.

We all tell ourselves stories to keep ourselves 'safe, often however, the stories keep us in the same place, when we could be moving ahead.

"So what do you want to achieve?" I asked a recent client. "Well, really I just want to achieve a work/life balance," she responded. "Hmm, and what exactly is a work/life balance?" Like many others, she seemed confused. She mumbled something about, "having more time for herself" and then confessed she didn't really know. I told her I thought that the concept of work/life balance was a load of nonsense and, in trying to achieve it, we’re faced with yet another source of stress and angst.

At some stage most of us go through a time when we have to be strong and brave. In Christchurch at the moment people are asking “how long will this continue?” For some of us this question really is “how long do we need to be brave?” Sleepless nights, fear and anxiety have their impact on all areas of your life, affecting your personal health and relationships. Here’s how to build resilience and courage.

NLP can, and is, being used in just about every facet of human endeavour. Since it was developed in the mid 1970's the use of NLP has expanded exponentially. The reason for such huge growth? It works! While many people who haven't been exposed to NLP often think it's a type of therapy, nothing could be further from the truth. Here are just SOME of the ways NLP is currently being used.