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I have learned that some things just can’t be resolved. True resolution of anything is very hard to accomplish, in fact full resolution only happens in about 5% of situations. You may think things are resolved, but there may be undercurrents, and unexpressed resentments which will not go away. Have you noticed how we work so hard to resolve problems issues and hassles in our lives, especially around relationships? What were you taught as a child, which compels you to try to make up?

Clients often seek personal help when dealing with behaviour problems in their children. A very healthy and simple way of changing a child’s behaviour is to undertake a 5 night “Sleep Talk” process - where you read your child a customised script each night when they have gone to sleep. Your familiar voice, your loving tone, and the personalness of the message “gets in!” and the child is given a message of love, support, and positive outcome which they unconsciously acknowledge and implement.

I am wondering how some young people today can be comfortable with carrying knives, ok with stealing, converting cars, drinking and driving young, abusing each other, having fights in the school ground sending abusive and threatening texts to each other… are abusive to teachers and other adults, are disrespectful of authority - all types which are in the news every day - disheartening us further about their future. This is a short list of stuff we hear about daily. So…

Have you ever tried being unpredictable? It is a very cool and useful tool I use with my children. Having lots of choices about the way I behave and react to situations allows for lots of fun and surprises when the children ask me for something. This means they can never tell exactly how I am going to react.. and they can’t manipulate the situation with sulking, greasing, and demanding. They can try though.